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Growing Love

Giving Romance Time To Develop

Lasting LoveWhen you’re trying to find a new relationship, or perhaps even find someone to marry or commit to for the longer term, then you may find yourself feeling pressured to escalate intimacy with someone faster than you otherwise might. With this in mind, we’re going to talk about why it’s often better to give romance time to develop and why rushing things will usually end badly.

Firstly, if you want a lasting relationship, then it’s important to see what compatibility you have with the person you’re interested in. Understanding the chemistry between two people and learning what you have in common, is something that takes time to occur. Ultimately, the only way to truly know someone is by spending lots of time with them and learning how they react and handle different situations in life.

For this reason, many of the strongest romantic relationships occur with people who you have known for awhile, such as a work colleague or a friend within your social circle. This is because you can learn what they’re like as a person, and perhaps build a good friendship before things become more intimate.

Rushing into a relationship prematurely is often a bad sign, and is usually built on lust for each other, rather than trust, care and understanding.

Taking your time is especially important for people who may have a history or rushing to intimacy too fast. If you know you have this habit, it’s worth looking at the underlying things that are motivating you towards this behaviour and try to become happy by yourself, without needing anyone else, before you try to find a relationship.

When you take this approach, you’re less likely to be hurt emotionally and you’ll also develop more of your personality, which means you’ll have a lot to offer your future partner when you meet them.

It’s worth knowing that the vast majority of successful, long lasting marriages occur when the two people have known each other for several years before setting the big day. In fact, it’s not uncommon to spend several years engaged before getting married. This is yet another sign that shows you romance is best developed over time, especially when you want it to last for a lifetime.

If you’re with someone who wants to take things faster than you’re ready for, then see this as a sign that the person may not be right for you. As the old saying goes: ‘true love waits’ and this has never been more true. So if you’re feeling pressured to find a partner,  that true romance is best developed over time.