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Giving Romance Time To Develop

Lasting LoveWhen you’re trying to find a new relationship, or perhaps even find someone to marry or commit to for the longer term, then you may find yourself feeling pressured to escalate intimacy with someone faster than you otherwise might. With this in mind, we’re going to talk about why it’s often better to give romance time to develop and why rushing things will usually end badly.

Firstly, if you want a lasting relationship, then it’s important to see what compatibility you have with the person you’re interested in. Understanding the chemistry between two people and learning what you have in common, is something that takes time to occur. Ultimately, the only way to truly know someone is by spending lots of time with them and learning how they react and handle different situations in life.

For this reason, many of the strongest romantic relationships occur with people who you have known for awhile, such as a work colleague or a friend within your social circle. This is because you can learn what they’re like as a person, and perhaps build a good friendship before things become more intimate.

Rushing into a relationship prematurely is often a bad sign, and is usually built on lust for each other, rather than trust, care and understanding.

Taking your time is especially important for people who may have a history or rushing to intimacy too fast. If you know you have this habit, it’s worth looking at the underlying things that are motivating you towards this behaviour and try to become happy by yourself, without needing anyone else, before you try to find a relationship.

When you take this approach, you’re less likely to be hurt emotionally and you’ll also develop more of your personality, which means you’ll have a lot to offer your future partner when you meet them.

It’s worth knowing that the vast majority of successful, long lasting marriages occur when the two people have known each other for several years before setting the big day. In fact, it’s not uncommon to spend several years engaged before getting married. This is yet another sign that shows you romance is best developed over time, especially when you want it to last for a lifetime.

If you’re with someone who wants to take things faster than you’re ready for, then see this as a sign that the person may not be right for you. As the old saying goes: ‘true love waits’ and this has never been more true. So if you’re feeling pressured to find a partner,  that true romance is best developed over time.

Why Casual Dates Work The Best

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If you’re planning to meet someone for a date, then one of the best things to do is keep things casual, regardless of whether you met this person online or in real life. In this guide, we’re going to explain why casual dates are often best, as well as give you a few ideas that’ll show you how to set up a casual date. By the time you’ve finished reading, you’re going to feel a lot more confident about this type of dating. So let’s begin.

Firstly, it’s important to realise that most people get a little nervous about dating, especially when they really like the other person. With this in mind, a casual date helps to take away a lot of the pressure that comes with the dating experience.

The traditional date of ‘dinner at a formal restaurant’ is considered fairly high pressure these days, and it can often feel more like an interview than a fun experience. What’s more, many people aren’t comfortable eating in front of their potential partner on the first date!

One of the best types of stress free dates to arrange, is simply to go out for drinks. This can either be an alcoholic drink at a bar in the evening, or a simple coffee date in the day. It’s much easier to get someone to agree to one of these informal dates, in large part due to the low pressure nature of them.

Man And Woman On Casual DateAdditionally, it’s worth pointing out that a casual date is going to be much gentler on your bank balance, too. If you’re going on a lot of dates trying to find the right person for you (which is often the case if you’re trying out online dating) then you don’t want to spend too much on each date, before you even get to know someone. Instead, it’s far wiser to keep things casual and only spend a few dollars on drinks.

This gives you a simple, no-pressure activity that serves as a backdrop to the conversation you’re having. If you’re both hitting it off really well, then you can always ‘upgrade’ your date and go for a meal later. But if you find there’s just no attraction or chemistry between the two of you, then neither of you have lost more than a little time and a few dollars for the coffee or drinks.

Overall, choosing a low pressure, casual date is the best thing to do for any ‘first date’ you’re setting up - simply because casual dates work best for everyone involved.